The old saying that “friends are the family you choose,” is so very true. When you go through hard times you discover this via a very unscientific mix of flakiness and sturdiness. You find out who you can count on and who you can’t. Another favorite saying of mine related to this is, “no friends like old friends.” The amigos you’ve known the longest are like tall oaks in a forest of weeping willow trees. They stand tall and proud alongside you. They don’t cowotow to your weaknesses and the accentuate your strengths.
Many years ago I was adopted by a musical family of friends. We shared a common passion and a common workday timewaste on the old PatGreen.com message boards. Pre social media, this was about as high tech as it got. Some of the greatest friends I have, I met via this scenario. We may only see each other occasionally throughout the year, and when our annual family reunion rolls around some of us may be so busy organizing things that we can’t sit down and catch up as we’d like…but I know they’re that tall oak in the forest for me. They’ve got my back. During the recent hard times, many have reached out to help reaffirm my foundation and assure me that things will be okay. Their advice has been indispensable and well-timed. This crazy, musical family of friends is bonded together through thick and thin. Marriages and divorces. Births and deaths. Good times and bad times.
Thread that runs among all the relationships of this little OKOM family is just that: the music. There are times when music feels like my only friend. And, I know you’ve felt that way too, even if you don’t want to admit it. Music boosts us when we’re down, and boosts us higher when we’re up. It consoles us during grief and cajoles us when we’re weary. It can be spiritual, powerful, emotional, digestible, forgettable, unforgettable, magical, fantastic, realistic, easy, hard, sensual, plastic…it can be whatever you need, whenever you need it. Music lives in our hearts, minds and souls. It’s in the air we breathe, it’s in the fabric of our beings. Having that as common connection to other people is not to be taken lightly.